Oftentimes, when a piece of property is cleared, the soil needs to be tested and analyzed for contamination. In the same way chemicals can leach through the soil into groundwater, your thoughts and emotions leach down through your beliefs, settle into your body’s core, and become your constant feelings. Negative thoughts and beliefs are a toxic poison to your core, while positive thoughts are like compost resulting in massive growth and lush greenery in your life.
Now that you have a better understanding of how the mind and body work, it is much easier to shift your thought processes in both you and your kids. Who you are and what you become is a direct result of your beliefs. You are a reflection of those deeply embedded beliefs that have gradually, steadily, and consistently leached into your subconscious. Shifting from your current thoughts to those that you desire brings about transformation in your life. This is what is known as having a paradigm shift— adopting a new way of thinking, doing, and behaving.
As parents, it’s our responsibility to analyze our core beliefs and then help our children interpret and identify their experiences properly so that when something bad happens, they don’t interpret it as, “Oh, I must be a horrible person.” Just as a property surveyor places stakes to define the property lines, we need to give our children the tools to survey their experiences and translate them into a positive thought process. One of the best tools is language. Parents are an amazing resource to help children navigate the hurricane of emotions they feel. Part of developing emotional intelligence in our children is giving them a broad range of words for their feelings.
Over time, these positive remarks and sayings become habitual and help your children to succeed as adults. Help them to identify their emotions. Even if they’ve had a bad day or are just in a bad mood, encourage them to own their emotions. Let them use their words, and say, “Okay, my friend hurt my feelings. This how I feel right now, and I’m going to get over it and have a better day tomorrow.” Teach them to leave their problems behind each night when they go to bed and that it isn’t necessary to share with the world how miserable they feel. This is just victim mentality; successful people own up to their problems and transform them into opportunities.
To replace limiting, self-defeating streams of thoughts, it is imperative to reduce the impact of these patterns. Be patient because this can take a good deal of time. Remember the donut example? Since it took a long time to acquire these beliefs, it may take time to replace them with new healthy beliefs. With all of this information about the subconscious mind, you may be thinking to yourself, “I will never be able to change my thought process.” Yes, you can. Any thought embedded into the subconscious can be removed and replaced through repetition.
Please share with us a negative thought that you have replaced (or want to replace) with a positive thought and how things have been changed for you because of that change.
