Paradigms are the governing belief systems that determine our success in life and as a parent. We learned many of our paradigms from our parents, which is why it is so important to change the beliefs that aren’t serving us, so that we don’t pass them on to our children. Being a parent is one of the most rewarding experiences in life. The joy our children bring to our lives is, at times, inexplicable. When your child’s canvas is colored with positive, powerful beliefs, imagine the life they can create!
To regain control of our thoughts and beliefs, we have to look at our past and see how we were raised. Did your parents bicker about money and live with a mindset of never having enough, or did they look at problems as opportunities in disguise? When children are surrounded in positive, loving, and caring environments, they turn out to be positive, caring and loving themselves. Kids need that type of a support network. The majority of parents want their children to have a better life than they had, but unfortunately, some weren’t raised in a supportive environment and continue to pass those negative beliefs onto their children. We cannot attempt to change someone else, including our own kids, if we don’t change ourselves first. It has to start with parents.
Most parents get caught in a rut and continue to raise their children the same way they were raised. We made the decision to parent our children differently from how we were parented, and for us, the only way to do so was through personal development. If you stop, take time to reflect about who you are, take an honest look at yourself, and really try to understand what is going on, your life will improve tenfold. As we mature, certain beliefs are ingrained in us. For example, if your mother was a germaphobe, and every five minutes she not only washed her hands but yours as well, you may very well take that belief into your adulthood, causing you to have hand sanitizer in every nook and cranny of your home, office, and car. The good news is that we can shift our paradigms to create a new and healthy way of thinking and acting. Just think about how much of a positive effect this would have on our children!
Do you have any paradigms you would like to change? Tell us about them!
